Each person defines happiness and joy differently. Some of us find joy in little things in life, enjoying a cup of coffee on a warm spring day, or spending time with our loved ones. But the most important thing is to understand that everything starts with yourself, including a sense of happiness and contentment. Therefore, if there is something in your life that makes you unhappy, it should be discarded. Nobody says it’s going to be simple and easy, no matter what it’s about; work, partner, toxic friends…
The interesting thing about being joyous is that a lot of people think they cannot experience joy unless they have every aspect of their life “satisfied”. That means having a stable job, a partner, and a family. For some reason, being single, especially when you’re a woman, has everyone thinking something’s wrong… that you’re just not happy being single. And this feeling imposes the need to seek joy and happiness in other people.
What if we tell you that there’s a way you can experience joy and happiness while being single?
There’s a specific profession called the happiness coach that helps people find perpetual joy. Here’s how they can help…
Single women hire a happiness coach for the same reason athletes to hire a personal trainer: they need someone to point them in the right direction to stay focused on their goal – finding joy, to encourage them, and give them strength when they lose self-confidence, work out a concrete plan of action to achieve that goal and work with them at every stage of their journey towards achieving the goal of finding joy in life. In other words, the task of a happiness coach is to help clients identify and achieve their desired life goals, both private and professional. Because let’s face it, there is no perpetual joy without satisfying all three.
Here you must be wondering why single women feel like they’ve failed on their journey to joy. The short answer would be that they have failed to achieve their goals. What is the reason behind this? Well, the real reasons why people, in general, do not achieve their desired goals are:
- They did not set realistic goals at the start
- They are not crystal clear about what exactly they want, but they “generalize” their goals
- They do not set a realistic time frame to achieve that goal
- They lose motivation very quickly
- They don’t make a concrete plan of action to achieve that goal
- After the first obstacles, they give up disappointed in themselves and ashamed
- After giving up on their goal, they develop the belief that they are not good enough, intelligent, or capable enough to achieve it.
A happiness coach can help you determine what exactly you want in your life and what kind of lifestyle you would like to live, in order to be happy. No matter how well-intentioned dear people such as parents, friends, or partners are, their “advice” is often biased and given from their point of view: what they think is best for you (what job you should do or what university you should choose, what kind of partner you should have…).
But what you really want and what would make you happy in the long run may be something completely different. Often, people make decisions in life that were directly or indirectly influenced by other people’s opinions, advice, persuasion, and emotional pressures that they never even asked themselves what it is that they really want. Happiness coaches free clients from other people’s expectations and helps them make their own decisions and decide what they really want, what life path they would like to choose, and make an action plan to achieve it.
They can help you organize your time better, achieve a balance between work and private life, deal with stress more effectively, make a plan to achieve a certain goal, whether professional or private and get rid of the “I can’t do it” excuse, why not live the life you want.
They can also help you learn to love yourself, prioritize your needs, accept yourself and your body as it is, and feel good in your own skin. They can help you do self-reflection and discover what your purpose in life is, what would make you truly happy, what your ideal life would be and to get to know yourself better, with all your virtues, flaws, talents, strengths, and weaknesses.
As a result of working on yourself with a such professional, you will increase self-confidence, regain faith in yourself and your abilities, and start looking at life from a different perspective, where you are not a victim of life’s circumstances, but an active creator of them. A whole new perspective will help you feel joy. True joy.
A happiness coach can help you gain self-esteem and adopt behavior patterns and communication skills that will help you build respect in the eyes of others. Also, improve your relationships with other people, build better social and professional skills, and become the best version of yourself. By now you must have thought that it sounds like a therapist, but it is not! He will not give you counseling. He will not give you a “magic pill” or a solution to your problem. A professional like this will help you identify the problem, make you aware of what your goal is, and help you to achieve that goal yourself with a concrete plan of activities, and investment of effort, time, and energy.
He will help you identify what abilities, skills, resources, and possible solutions you have available to achieve what you want to achieve.
He will help you find the solution yourself! A happiness coach works with people who want to achieve more in life, who want to be more successful, better, happier, and more fulfilled, not with people who are “tired of life” (a therapist works with them). Once all of this is settled, joy is guaranteed.